Advice for Married Women With Children, Going Through a Divorce or Separation

     If you are a woman, and your husband is unfaithful, even once, it would be better to get out while you are still young, or before your self-esteem is destroyed.  People do not change.  It is not that you cannot forgive, just that it is not something that will go away, and most likely will happen again.
     If you have children, do not give up custody, fight for them, or you will regret it.  You may have split custody, but keep young children with you. 
     If there is property and a house, which you obtained together, then keep the house.  Get a lawyer, ask for alimony, child support and keep the house, even if you have to take in a renter.  I know it is hard, but you will regret it if you do not, because it is very hard for a single woman, unless rich, to buy or build a house these days.
     Do not get involved with any man in the first year.  You are lonely and vulnerable, and you will not make a good choice, and looking back, you will regret not waiting for the right person.  Men pray on recently divorced, beautiful, young women, especially with houses, like vultures.  You may be prey to an opportunistic predator.  That is what happened to me.  He will destroy your life bit by bit, and will make your husband look like a prince by comparison.  And, last but not least, if the new man disrespects you or your kids, even one bit, say "adios amigo."  Say, "hit the road Jack, and don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out."  Tell your husband the same, the very first time he hits you or cheats on you.
     Not everyone has a very supportive family.  They may not give you good advice.  They will tell you for years to come that you were the one who wanted a divorce.  They do not know the inside story.  Only you know if you have been left, and only you know what happened behind closed doors.
     It is not fair that men live in luxury and wealth, while women and children live in poverty.  My own ex-husband lived in a huge house on a lake with his new wife and kids, while my kids had to grow up in a trailer.  It is not fair, but if you are not careful, this can happen.  Be careful.  Please be careful.  DO NOT WASTE TIME ON ANY MAN NOT WORTH IT!!!